“Someone to care, someone to share,
Lonely hours, And moments of despair,
To be loved (to be loved)
Oh, what a feeling
To be loved!.”[1]
(Landis, 1988, 1:20:20)
When I think of love, this timeless and beautiful song from the popular 80s movie, ‘Coming to America’, comes to mind. It was the scene where Prince Akeem (Eddie Murphy) had just had his first dance with Lisa (Shari Headley). He wouldn’t stop singing, or should we say shouting, as he danced home, much to the annoyance of his neighbours.
Why? He was in LOVE!
Love is one of those words with varied meanings because we’ve experienced it in several ways through different relationships. But some elements have remained constant through time. And that is love is selfless, thoughtful, patient and kind regardless of the type of relationship, romantic or not.
As people, we are designed for relationships. And love is an essential aspect of those relationships. Although there is a strong emphasis on romantic love in our media today, we know that love is much more than that. Love is shared between families, friends, and even inanimate and non-human life (plant Moms and Dads, I see you!).
And just like anything good, it has numerous health benefits. For example, love reduces anxiety and depression, promotes happiness and a healthy lifestyle, lowers blood pressure and increases your life span. And these benefits are not limited to romantic relationships; they can also be derived from non-romantic relationships.
What are some little ways you can be more intentional about living a life full of love? You can:
• Reconnect with an old friend
• Pay for someone’s lunch
• Pay for someone’s bus/train fare
• Offer to babysit for a family friend who is swarmed with work
• Compliment a stranger
• Giveaway clothes and other items you no longer use
• Give up your seat for that person that looks exhausted, is pregnant or older
When love is practised daily and intentionally, its’ effects become long-lasting and bring good health and longevity.
But remember, love is also in the little things. So don’t forget that a tiny action might go a long way for someone. In a world where everyone is too occupied to take a second look or slow down for someone else, dare to be selfless and show love.
And you can start by sharing this article.
[1] Landis, J. (Director). (1988). Coming to America. Eddie Murphy Productions
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